Merry Xmas 2014

As 2014 draws to a close, I thought it would be a good thing to start a new tradition for this blog - one of looking back and viewing the highlights of the year.   This year has been very intense in many ways, and so I'll look at the bois and also what's been happening in My life.

I started 2014 living on Laxey in Liverpool Marina.  It was cold, I remember.  

Living essentially below the waterline was not good for Me, nor good for My kink life.  I like a space I can expand in, and when I have a boi over, I like to use the whole domestic setting to be able to set the scene properly.  And to have both domestic and sexual duties capable of being done by a houseboi.

I noticed I was unwell once work had started early in the new year, and the damp conditions had not improved matters.  Soon I was not able to cycle to work from the marina and so I finally registered at the GP in Liverpool and went on a course of antibiotics to sort out a chest infection.  I also went for tests, and I discovered that I was now diagnosed asthmatic.  Which was a relief, because it could have been chronic obstructive pulmonary disease which would not have been good.  At the time, I was also teaching some friends in the evenings, who noticed that I was deteriorating and who insisted that I should move into their house with them.

In April I moved into their warm, dry, comfortable playroom.  What a pleasure it was to be able to sleep without being fully clothed and wearing a hat!  Life on a sailing boat in winter (even with a heater and insulation and duvets and everything) is cold, cold, cold!  Once I'd recovered, I decided to lodge in the Warrington house with My friends and so I rented two rooms from them.  And that's where the first boi comes along.  

A lovely boi whom I called plus who came to spend some time with Me and help move from the playroom to the new rooms in the house (it is a big Georgian house), and who has featured in these pages before, as has 279, pictured opposite after I shaved his head shortly after collaring him. 

279

I remember the pleasure of having him around that weekend, also the pleasure of using him in bed; his was a a willing bottom.  The overall experience of servitude was a little overwhelming for him and so we parted company.  I think he was very conscious of being with Me as My slave in company; during this weekend we had to dash to Menai Bridge to rescue a friend who was doing a yacht course and who had to leave the boat, so I went to collect him.  I noticed the slave fingering his collar while we were sitting in the pub there, and also how he reacted when My friend was being sociable in the car.  279 was aware that My friend knew his status as My slave, and I think that this discomfited him and ended in his decision that evening when we'd returned to Warrington.

paul being useful

paul contacted Me off recon, and we exchanged messages and soon I was walking back from Warrington Bank Quay station after having met him off the Carslisle train.  

The timing was not good because it was the middle of the week, and a busy week at that.  Still, he came to serve and so we had some fun and he left the next morning.  I enjoyed the session very much and although there was the possibility of extending it, I decided not to do so.  he has since moved from Carslisle to much closer.

There followed a long discussion with a Scottish boi in London which did not progress, which was a shame because it had potential.  It did not reach the meeting stage, culminating in unsuccessful skyping.

There is a slave in Huddersfield whom I have blogged about before who came to visit around this time and who is learning to act out his sexuality.  792 has been the subject of a posting before, and so his visit was,  I think, a little bit of an eye-opener for him.  he is keen to serve, but needs to slim down which he is managing to do.  So far, he has remained in contact and continues to work towards another meeting.

the Scruff boi

I started chatting to a lovely boi on Scruff and so we met for an afternoon of pleasure.  I include his picture here because he was the first in My new house in Warrington.  

I moved from My friends' house in August into a rented terraced house in a suburb of the town so that I'd have more space to accommodate slaves, My workshop, and other interests.  I had sold the Fleetwood house in March, and now needed more appropriate accommodation.  There is a suitable space under the stairs to keep a boi, and so far it has not been made available for use, but this is planned for the new year.

179

During all this time the German slave who is volunteering in Mali and I have been in serious discussions about servitude, and he was supposed to come serve with a view to a contracted period in October/November but the Ebola outbreak in West Africa has been problematic.  We have had contact through skype and it remains to be seen when he is able to serve, although he has performed online and on video for Me, but things are not as simple as they otherwise could be.  At the moment it is unclear when he will be in a position to return to Europe.  There is also the issue of this contact with Me just being fantasy in a far off place where being gay is infra dig.  We have discussed this issue in particular but he assures Me that this is not the case.  

I started speaking to a slave off recon and his training has started.  he is 179, and he is 32.  I am beginning to like bois in their late 20s/early 30s.  

179's chain collar 

179 has learned the presenting positions, and is being trained as a pupslave.   his first session with Me was in October, and although he found being respectful a little difficult at first, calling Me "Sir" now

comes  quite naturally to him.  he knows what the paddle feels like - not because he'd done anything wrong (I paddle all bois on their first time so that they know what to avoid) - and he is quite beautiful.  he was a complete novice, and we started with bondage and edging.  There are complications with this boi, but I am hopeful that they will be ironed out in the new year.   

For his birthday I gave him an engraved padlock to go with his collar, and recently he has been introduced to electro, which he loves.

The picture below is of him having electro fun, and I am intending to do much more

179 and electro fun

with him.  I have invested in a cage made by My friend Alan of www.kinkycages.co.uk as well as some stocks.  

This boi has developed a love for tight restrictive bondage, and so he had the pleasure of sleeping in the harness the last time.  he has his own muzzle and tail, and so his standard dress when he visits is now collar, harness, tail and muzzle.  

A session with him involves protocol, household duties, bondage of some description, edging and cumming when directed, although chastity is next on the agenda.  he has expressed an interest in this.  

I have had him shave smooth, and because of the complications of this particular relationship, his mark of obedience is his shaving.

Owner and 179

I am very proud to be his owner.

Since meeting 179 I have been speaking with a Birmingham based slave who is looking for a fulltime Master.  This boi has good references from a mutual friend and so we are in discussions about a long term contract.  This is the latest development in respect of a houseboi and so, as always, we shall see how things go forward.

There have been other people with whom I have had fun and who have enjoyed training remotely with Me this year,  slave jamie in Blackpool being one.  he has just invested in a dickcage device because he wants to try chastity.  he sends Me videos regularly, which I am tempted to post and may do so in the new year.  

Also, I had a delightful time with a most obedient slaveboi from Leyland recently, also remotely.

I attended the first of the two Kink evenings at the Unit in the Wirral as well, but as they were held on a Sunday evening, I decided not to go to the second.  Next year they will be held on a Friday, so that is a lot more promising.  As always, I am chatting to people on various sites, and at the moment there are one or two potentials out there, you know who you are.  I am particularly interested in seeing where matters with the twinky boi go.

I have re-established contact with kit after a long time, which has been good, especially as it has not been as a sub, nor on a sexual level - so I am looking forward to seeing him come up for a "secular" weekend in the new year.  Readers might remember him from a few years ago, when we had an issue with a buttplug.  

This post is especially for jochub off recon, who asked Me to let him know when the blog was updated.  

In closing, MERRY XMAS to you all, and I hope you have a lovely day today!

slave 792

The process of surrender and control is a long and difficult one for both parties.  The slave needs to learn to trust not only the man but also the motivations of the Master, and he needs to understand that the will of the Master is in his best interests as his Master's slave.  Masters, on the other hand, need to also learn to trust the slave in very much the same way.  At the start of every adventure there is the to-ing and fro-ing between Master and slave, the ballet of negotiation, each party testing the other.

So far, this new boi 792 is doing well.  There have been minor hiccups to date, but he is amenable to being moulded and modified to a form more pleasing to Me.  he is a large man, so there is the question of losing much excess bodyfat and so he has been enrolled in a weight loss plan.  I have made My requirements clear:  I want a total power exchange relationship and so this is what is being worked towards.

I have had him start his slave journal, as well as introduced him to the writings of Jack Rinella.  There is a face-to-face meeting planned for today, so that I can now judge his commitment away from the filter that is the internet.  The moment of truth is upon us - this is where things have the tendency to go awry, when the movement is made away from the safe confines of the cerebral, virtual world of cyberspace.  Regular readers of the blog will know that the this was the hurdle that the most recent bois stumbled at. Perhaps 792 will be different; this is his second time, after all.  

I don't usually trust second time arounders: in the past, they have proved unreliable.   I think it is better to decide on a course of action and then to follow it through.  Maybe this boi will do as he says, maybe having that time to reflect is exactly what he needed.  Certainly, I have not made it easy for him.  I have been difficult, demanding and awkward, because I know what I want in a boi and I am not going to compromise.  I am prepared to negotiate in the early stages, but eventually I will have the boi how I want him to be.

his body and behaviour will be modified to please, and his training will be for My sole pleasure.   Why else would one have a slave?

As ever, there are always bois on the horizon.  The more time I spend in chat and with them, the more i realise that sessions are difficult to do.  Role-play is not really My cup of tea.  I very much prefer the reality of the voluntary servitude lifestyle as opposed to a few hours of sexplay.  I like owning a boi, and I like the service that a boi renders - full-time.  I prefer having a boi to wholly serve, rather than just for sex.  

Ashore Once More

It has been a difficult Winter, now morphing into Spring.  I was offered rooms in a friend's house in Warrington, which I moved into off the boat towards the end of February.   The house is suitable for entertaining bois, having a playroom.   Initially, I moved into the playroom while My rooms were being cleared.  The coldness of the winter and My deteriorating health dictated an immediate move from the boat into warmer surroundings.

And since I have been here, I was contacted by a boi whom I'll call "plus" - a follower of this blog - and who wanted to explore aspects of chastity and voluntary servitude.  I had him visit over a weekend, but he decided that this was not the path he wanted to take, which is a pity because I liked him very much.  Not only was he beautiful, he was also smart.  And what more could one want in a slave?  

he left after helping Me move: I felt that it was this experience that was the clincher: he did not want the servitude part of the arrangement.  I was discussing him with My housemates afterwards and we agreed he is a lovely man who'd have been quite welcome in the house, but that we'd probably worn him out in the move!  Nonetheless, "plus" would have been a very pleasant addition to the household.

Shortly after "plus" decided not to continue, another person off recon entered the scene,  his relationship with his partner of over four years had ended, but they were still living together, and he wanted to move on.  he was an enthusiastic trainee, and thereafter followed a whirlwind enslavement with this boi 279 learning the rules in preparation for learning the ropes, so to speak.  he started and kept his journal religiously, and I was very pleased with this boi's progress.  Things became quite complicated because of his relationship - it transpired that the partner did not really expect him to find a replacement quite as soon as he did, and although they were living in separate rooms, it seemed that the relationship was very much still on the go.  I had placed him in chastity and he was living a controlled life - and enjoying it.  We were speaking daily, and he was enjoying the surrender.  he came to visit for a weekend to live as My slave.  And that's where the fantasy met reality.  

he arrived by train as agreed, and once in the house,  he signed a training contract, and I shaved his head and collared him as I'd said I would.  he made that transition without trouble, and so began 279's actual service.  

Of all the bois I have trained in recent times, I felt that 279 would succeed as My slave.  he was following the programme well, and he had made good progress.  he had surrendered various freedoms and was both committed and articulate.  his journal was progressing well and he understood the need to stay communicated.  There were times when I felt he was communicating too much, but on the whole I was happy with everything.  he was aware that if the training contract was successful he'd have to leave London for the northwest, but the earliest that would be a reality would be a year hence.  Things were going well.  This was a boi who had found what he'd wanted, and our interests were aligned - well, as aligned as they would ever be, I suppose.

The time that was spent with Me was going well, too.  It is difficult to suddenly change from being in control to being controlled.  Especially when your weekend becomes someone elses, and you have no function except to please your Master.  There were chores which needed doing that day, and so we had to drive all over the countryside before being able to relax.  As it turned out, I had to go to Wales to fetch a friend which meant a four hour drive, effectively wasting the time I was going to have with My slave. Still, it would be good for the boi, I thought: even though it might be boring for him. 

Later that evening I called a timeout, and 279 confessed that he was finding the experience a little overwhelming.  In Wales I'd noticed that he had become conscious of his chain collar in public, his place in the background, and the fact that other people whom I knew would recognise his status as an owned, collared boi.  I found it interesting that initially he'd worn the collar proudly, but as time progressed and he was more exposed to people, the shine had worn off.  I think that it was a good experience overall, but sadly it ended with Me driving him to the railway station the next morning, and 279 returned to his ex and hopefully, lived happily ever after.  

I was glad to have been able to provide this experience for him, but it opens up a bit of a problem: I know that there are many fantasists who dream of being enslaved, and I have met a fair few!  The question is: how long do I persist?

Another slave who has been showing renewed interest was someone who had approached Me in the past but who, when push came to shove, was unable to overcome his own anxieties and let Me down. Contrary to My instincts, I have been speaking with him again, and so will see where this leads. Memories of the York boi and others spring to mind.  As things stand, he is now shaved and in daily contact, but is going to have to work hard at being a committed slave to progress.  

And so it continues.