270 is freed

I am sad to have to announce that I have had to free 270 because of his family commitments.  Obviously, I wish him well and am sorry to have to lose him.

From BadYoungMaster

Further to My comments earlier today, I found this:
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Sunday, September 23, 2012

Giving Up Your Life? Bud, You Just Found It.

Interestingly enough one of the most common arguments I hear from 'slaves' is that although they like submitting in the bedroom, they want all the freedoms granted to everyone else in this society outside the bedroom, often coupled with the statement that to be a 24/7/365 slave would be to 'give up their life'. This pisses me off!

The use of the word 'bedroom' in this context does not imply a place to sleep, but rather a place to have sex. Such people have reduced BSDM to something that is purely sexual - incorrectly I might add.

Although there are elements of BDSM that produce a sexually gratifying response - such as a slave who obtains an erection when in bondage, it is an elementary mindset to reduce all elements of the BDSM lifestyle to sexual ones. The delight I receive from playing with a 'human dog' for instance is purely emotional and not sexual whatsoever for me. Moreover, the aspects of control from TPE (total power exchange) cannot be limited to the confines of a bedroom without me getting bored rather quickly.

Many inexperienced slaves reading this blog may have attended several sessions with one or more Masters or Mistresses - some experienced and some just as inexperienced. These sessions oftentimes may have been short, between 2-5 hours, and packed full of activities that involve the genitals. Unfortunately, this only furthers the perception that BDSM is about sex. I can attest that longer sessions of several days or weeks, offer an experience that you will never find in a short power session. These experiences will be quite the opposite from the cold, domineering experiences seen in some fantasy porn video.

Now let's talk about the 'giving up your life part'. Obviously, something compels me to want to own a slave and likewise, something must compel you to want to be a slave. For me, it's as though every fiber in my body tells me that this is the best thing for me, and likewise, you should have the same feeling. If you don't then that's probably why you feel like your 'giving up your life' rather than a feeling of finding it. Let's explore this further.

It's normal that throughout life, even through any given day or week there are times that you don't feel like you would want to be a slave, or from my aspect - a Master. I have these feelings at times. It's normal. A friend recently asked me if I thought he was making the right choice by getting married. Feelings of uncertainty are completely normal and can be applied to almost any other type of relationship. In a few posts now, I have stated that if you can 'get-off' and still feel like being a slave afterwards, then your feelings have probably transcended beyond something that is purely hormonal and that you are ready for the next step.

The very perception that you are 'giving up your life' has to mean that you are going to be at some kind of loss by being a slave. This is a negative perception however, as there is much to be gained, depending on the slave's situation, from being in a TPE relationship - physical and health, emotional, mental, sexual, and even spiritual benefits not to mention personal growth. Now you are probably thinking "yeah, right", but consider, just as one example, the plight of gay people persecuted throughout the world and as such remain 'closeted'. Arguably, one may say that remaining closeted has benefits, but anyone who has come out knows just as well as I do that it helps us achieve a sense of self-actualization. Achieving such as state would be impossible for someone who feels like a slave but who cannot live openly as one. Yes. It's difficult first coming out of the closet, and yes, even more difficult telling your loved ones about your involvement in BDSM, but it helps strengthen relationships with those who truly care for you and makes you feel like you have a sense of autonomy.

http://badyoungmaster.blogspot.co.uk/2012/09/giving-up-your-life-bud-you-just-found.html?zx=a7c0bdd71918d8ab
Read and enjoy.

Submission and 634

Last year I was talking to and had begun the initial stages of training a boi who had to go overseas for career reasons.  We had spent some time talking about the nature of submission and domination, and although he was craving the experience, he was held back by the fear of his fear.

This particular boi's experience is, I know, quite common.  In his case, he had only recently come out as gay to his close friends and was busy coming to terms with that big change in his life.  Being gay is one thing, but to find yourself attracted to a kinky lifestyle is to rub salt in the wound!

We spent hours chatting during the runup to xmas, both online and on the phone, and he started being kept in chastity and having his orgasm controlled.   I only let him cum when I chose, and then when I could monitor his orgasm.  They would have made great videos if I had made some of the cumshots.

he was mentioned in the New Year Update published in February, and I am pleased to report that we have re-established contact.  What I have enjoyed discovering is that he has realised how critical kink is to his life, and this is another example of how people, once they've found and enjoyed this kind of sexual pleasure, find vanilla unrewarding by comparison.

I think that absolute surrender to another's will is liberating, as I have mentioned on these pages before.  In discussion today, this boi echoed that view: "I've realised after being in yet another relationship that I really need a dominant figure in my life to feel complete. It's funny when I feel dominated and controlled and my freedom has been taken away is actually when I feel most free" . I think that this is an important realisation, that moment of satori.

Since returning, he has been hinting at wanting to be placed under control again, so today I thought I'd push those buttons.  Nothing has changed.  It was necessary for him to offer himself, so I created the opportunity, which he took.  At the moment, he is effectively under consideration again.  he responded precisely as I expected him to, and as a reward he was allowed to take care of his erection.  he is Irish, and returns there soon for a short period.  he has been told to go and think about what he wants.

I am expecting him return and to ask to be under My control again.

So what is it that makes subs return like moths to that dazzling, dangerous flame?  I have read many profiles and experiences of subs and Masters.  There is that perception of inequality that exists in this kind of relationship - actually it is a relationship of equality, more of a yin/yang dynamic:  the sub is happiest when he is able to surrender to the Dom, and the Dom when he is able to control the sub.  In many ways, it is a perfect union.  It is also closer to the traditional heterosexual couple than almost anything I can think of, and it is successful because both parties play distinct roles, agreed within the context of the relationship.

A sub on recon, submissiveboyfriend, put it like this:
"Hi all!!!

I am a young bottom lad, slim smooth and submissive

I look for a top dominant guy for a possible relationship.

1. If you think that unequality and different status is good within a relationship
2. If you think that your boyfriend should be the one who "minds the house" and do housechores for you.
3. If you think that punishment (including physical punishment) is an acceptable way to solve day by day problems in a relationship and you think your boyfreiend should accept it.
4. If you think that sexual loyalty should work one way: from your boyfriend to you. But You think that you should be free to have sex when and whoever you wish
5. If you like to combine all that with a usual relationship: going out, dinner, cinema, and so on...


Then just drop me a line and lets take it from there!!

I am into guys usually up to 35 years old, white or black, doesnt matter, but rough, preferably not fat and also self confident

I believe in dominance not only physical exercise but also intelectual. Types which are often of my interest are macho guys, executive-classy guys or even those who like to feel superior from a cultural, social, economic or any other reason. 

I would like to make happy and make the life of a dominant guy easier"

I like how he put things.  he is clearly outlining what he sees as his role within such a relationship, and I think that this is the common position for most prospective submissives.  It is a role I like.  It makes My task so much easier if a boi knows what he wants and where he wants to be.  And that is one of the most refreshing aspects of these relationships - openness from the outset.

On a another note, the lovely Scot mentioned in My last post has had some very good fortune and his career is taking him to London shortly, thence to America for a while - sad because it means that we won't be able to meet until he returns, and that might be next year.  One man's meat is truly another's poison!  So, My misfortune is his opportunity of a lifetime, so rather than being disappointed, I am actually very happy  for him.  This is indeed his lucky break, and I hope ti goes very, very well for him! :)

And the Midlands boi?  Well, we're still communicating, which is a good sign.  Ditto for another boi in Manchester, so there are options.  Always options!   

Another Potential boi, and an Observation on Sessional subs

For some time now, I have been admiring the profile of a boi who lives in the Midlands and have been chatting to him since late March this year.  I find him physically attractive, and since speaking with him, intellectually so too.

This boi has had several masters and has had three years' experience in the bdsm environment, but My sense is that his experience as a submissive has been just that - as a sub, for  relatively short periods of time.  From what he has said, he has enjoyed this, but it is My intention for him to explore surrender.  he is a boi of strong will, and so far has artfully avoided complying with most of the instructions he has been given, indicating to Me that he is very much in control still.  I raised this in a discussion with him tonight, and he agreed that I was largely correct in My assessment.  I indicated that I intended to change this, and he assented so we shall see what results.

As I have said before in this blog, sex is a very important part of the bdsm experience, and sexual submission is a key part of that.  There is much more.  This boi has had all the sex he's wanted and has experienced much in the way of group kinky sex, but My feeling is that although immensely pleasureable, this boi needs more than that.  he needs to be collared and to be someone's slave.

I want to own him.

There is a common misconception that an owned boi is a creature kept in the basement, be abused,  and used to do housework and present holes for filling.  I don't think that the current craze for soft porn (50 Shades of Grey et al) has done much to correct this in the public mind.  I think a boi can be owned and still have a rich and rewarding career and social life within the constraints of an authoritarian relationship, provided that the framework that is set in place between Master and slave is flexible enough to accommodate the needs of both parties.

Trust, Loyalty, Communication and Obedience are all fundamental to such a structure and these qualities need to be nurtured and allowed to bear fruit where both parties are concerned.  slave 270, for example, is currently at long leash mainly because he has pressing family problems that are keeping him from serving more regularly.  I am satisfied that he is being good because of the trust that exists between us, and because of the long conversations we have had that tell Me that he wants and needs to be owned; his ownership fulfils a need he has.  And so he remains collared, responding to messages and showing his obedience via his blog and the performance of tasks that I set him.

Remote control is a technological reality today.  I was in the Apple Shop recently and saw an interesting device that allowed motion sensors to activate a webcam to prevent burglary - or at least watch the burglary happening - and I thought of a use in this context.  A boi could be monitored remotely.  he could feel owned and under the eye of his Master, even when a hundred miles distant.  I like the idea, I think it has kink potential.

I usually communicate with bois is by text message, Skype, phone, and I require bois to report in daily.  I want to know what they are doing and how their days progress.  I encourage them to write journals, mostly private, sometimes public, so that they are able to measure their progress.  

Ownership must work for both parties.  It must also be fun and rewarding. The would-be owner must be patient because it rarely happens overnight.  I intend to have several sessions with this boi and to spend time getting to know him, so we shall see what happens.  I think he wants to test these waters,  and I think he'll find that this is a much more meaningful experience than just being used and fucked in a session.

There are other bois I have been chatting to of late and as is always the case some have potential, others just for sessions.  Currently, I am speaking with a boi from St Helens who is bi and who has a profile on Fetlife, and who might well turn out to be a very interesting  find.  Sessions can be fun, but are likely to be much better when they are overnight and are as part of a lifestyle experience, rather than a boi arriving for an hour or two's fun.

As you know, I live in a boat.  I often watch youths do exciting things at the other end of the harbour where there is a pontoon. In hot weather these teens climb down from the wharf to the pontoon, clown around and finally jump in and swim.  What I have noticed is that the boys generally run up and down, balking at jumping in the water, stopping at the very edge of the pontoon.  They mock charge, stopping before taking that final step, before plunging into the water.  The girls don't.  If they're going to swim, they swim.  Rarely so the boys.  Sessionals tend to be like the boys on the pontoon: they are attracted by the adventure, driven by lust, put off that plunge at the very last minute.  They become timewasters.  Sometimes they pluck up the courage and follow through and meet.

I have been reasonably fortunate in that after chatting for a while, they do meet.  Like everyone, I do have My fair share of timewasters - as regular readers to this blog will know.  I was saying to a close friend recently that I sift through an incredible amount of dross to find that one good boi who does what he says he's going to.   Which is why I am now preferring older bois, bois who have had some experience and who have an idea of what they want to experience.

I have managed to gain access to a very well set up play room in Warrington, courtesy of some very kind friends.  It is My intention to use this facility whenever possible to expand bois' experiences.  I am very lucky to have been allowed the use of this space, and am looking forward to it.

As an addendum to this post, I spent most of today chatting to a very nice boi from Scotland who expressed an interest in kinky things, and after a great exchange of text messages and messages on Recon, he experienced going commando at My instruction (he was at work)

and we agreed he'd call later on this evening.  Above is a pic of him obeying hi first instruction, taken at work. Unfortunately, My workshop has poor Three phone coverage, and so I didn't receive his call earlier.  I was having trouble sleeping and was dozing earlier when I heard the phone buzz - it was My Scot. I think I'll refer to him as "a" for now, until he registers for a number.  We've just had that phone call, and the task I intended giving him earlier awas a fun one, before sleeping he was to enjoy his orgasm and send Me the cumshot pic.   So, I'm pleased to say that the instruction has been delivered, and now I'm waiting for the result.  Sessions?  Longer term?  Who knows?  Only time will tell....  he sounds lovely, and he's a lovely smile on him.  And good bits, too -as can be seen from the lovely pic a sent Me. 

The new boi serves

The new boi came over to be collared and to serve.  We spent the weekend together last month.  Here are some pictures:

I enjoyed having him around; much was discussed and agreed, and he served well.  As agreed in the contract, he has been wearing his vanilla collar daily, and in spite of experiencing some family difficulties that have prevented him serving more recently, he has been progressing well.

I have found him to be respectful and obedient, and a quick learner.  he has been keeping up his private journal (not open to public view) and I have high hopes for this boi.

slave 270 is now owned.

After some discussions lasting the better part of the last two days and contact over in excess of the last two years or so, this boi has now become My owned slave.  his initial contract is for six months, the first three months of which are probationary.

So far, he has been an exemplary slave, and we shall see how he develops.  he is keeping a journal, which is private for now.

After the sudden disappearance of 235, he now fills the gap left by My puppy archie, and also by 589, whom I have now given to Kentmaster, who is better situated geographically for ownership of that boi.

589 is with Kentmaster on a trial period of thirty days, after which he will become his property if both parties agree.

I last saw 235 as he left for Leeds last Friday, with the chain collar firmly padlocked in place.  I have not heard from him since, and he has failed to respond to any communication, so I am annulling our contract of agreement.

The Limitations of Living Aboard

Since 1 February I have been living fulltime on My boat here in the marina.  This has not been all idyllic, mainly because it has been quite cold.  As I lie here in My comfortable bed, I can hear the snow melting off the boat tent and sliding to the deck.  It is a Saturday, and soon I must get up and drive to Blackpool to help G with his packing.  He is moving to Manchester, a city which we both like.  

The boat has allowed Me to live and work in Liverpool while letting My house and finding financial equilibrium; the commuting was not going well, and so I had to move.  It is not an ideal space to play in, for example, and although I have used it before I prefer having a lot of area for the bois to be bois, to live as a boi, and to be naked in an environment that is warm and spacious.  

The second major disadvantage is that I have had to free My pup.  he is in Fleetwood and due to his own circumstances, is unable to follow.  This has meant that he has not seen Me as often as I would have liked, and due to the lack of suitable venue, I have decided to relinquish My rights and let him find another owner, closer to him.  Below is a pic of My lovely puppy archie, wearing My collar.

I have explored the opportunities that renting hotel rooms present, but that is going to have to wait awhile.  I am chatting to a boi on slavebois, and will trial that venue soon.

So, where does that leave Me?

I am very interested in and have been talking to a Manchester boi, and we seem to be getting on.  Both he and I joined recon at about the same time and had corresponded in the past, and now that some water has passed beneath the bridge, both of us are more experienced, and so there is a strong possibility of My collaring him.

Also, there is another possibility of being a Dad to a boi in Chester, but these are just all potentials.  As before, we shall see.

I remain in contact with archie, and if the opportunity becomes available, will use him.  But now he is free to find another owner, and to explore new things and find more happiness with someone new.

Happy New Year and Update

This update has been a long time coming.  I have had several requests for an update recently, so this is especially for slave perrito35's master so that his boi can follow his instruction.

Where to start?  A good question.

Sexually, I have been quite active, and life with the puppy archie has been great.  he has been visiting on Sundays and has turned into a great puppy and a good boi to use.  We have experimented with rope, and I have very much enjoyed that.  We had a session with another boi of whom I am very fond, a boi called seaotter, and that was a special treat for the pup.  Things didn't go quite as planned, but it was pleasant, nonetheless.

I also made an opportunity for him to visit a local master to experience sounding.  he had a good session with this master, and has been told he'll be allowed to visit again.  he enjoyed the sounding, and is keen to try that again.

archie has been trained to be naked whenever I want him to be, which I have blogged about in the past.  Usually, the easiest place for him to be naked and to feel exposed in public is in the car, and although it took some getting used to, a few weeks ago I arranged a visit to a master I am mentoring who had a slave over for the weekend.  This particular slave is, I think, still very much in the fantasy stage of his involvement with bdsm and needs to surrender to develop more fully.  archie was told to undress on arrival, and because there were two new faces, had become a little shy.  I helped with his shyness, and soon he was led out of the changing room and took his rightful place at My feet and was able to contribute to the conversation, being mainly about his experience of being dominated for the benefit of the other master.  he soon acclimatised (yes, for some it is not easy being unclothed in the presence of three clothed males, but when you are satisfying your Master's wishes, it becomes easy) so that when I took him into the bedroom to show some bondage, he was completely at ease.  his reward was his Master's cum, a little while later.  I let him cum too, so it was a pleasant way to spend an otherwise miserable day, before rejoining the other two.

I am still looking for a fulltime slave.

I have spoken with quite a few people on various sites, the most prominent to date being Irishsubboy, who accepted a number to become 634.  Sadly, he has had to go abroad to enhance his career, and although we spent most of the runup to xmas chatting and exploring chastity and cum control, his having to move has effectively snookered the discussion for now.  During the time he was under consideration he learned much and has the makings of a good boi to a master.  he is new to bdsm, but knows that he needs an authoritarian relationship so it is just a matter of time for him.  Whether he finds fulfilment with Me or another does not matter - either way, he is a born slave who needs domination and control, and I would very much like to own him.

I have re-established a connection with a boi called subbitch24 over the last month or so, and am busy getting to know him a lot better.  he is open to an authoritarian relationship, and is just the sort of boi I am looking for.  The discussions continue.

And most recently, a boi called dogfilth.  he wants an extreme master, but as yet we have not quite defined what that means to him. 

So there, in the last two paragraphs, is the diverse polarity of My own involvement with bdsm exposed.  In the case of the first boi, I will be more caring and affectionate (but of course firm and demanding :) ), whereas in the case of the second, much more dominant and controlling.  And I like to vary between those two degrees of control.  I think a master should have several slaves so that he can enjoy the shades of control that make up his need to dominate.

The final bit of news is that I have now let My house in Fleetwood and moved out of it.  This makes play difficult, but not too much so.  The boat is not ideal for play, but with some modifications it could be.  I suspect that future play will involve hotel rooms for a while, Premier Inns and Travelodge spring to mind.  Either that, or I will have to visit.

Happy new year, and more blogs will follow.