Wednesday, 28 December 2016

What it means to be a slave

Every so often I see something that is relevant.  This is from Tumblr.  Too many bois don't really understand what I'm looking for.  This article, although written from the female perspective, puts being a slave - my slave - into context.  Read.
What it really means to be a slave
I decided to write this article because I have seen so many submissives come into the lifestyle expecting everything to be dream-like and perfect. I don’t wish to ruin anyone’s dreams, or turn them from the activity, but what I wish to do is to explain how things really are.
Being a slave can be, and is for me, has been a wonderful life. It’s everything I wanted it to be. It is also more than I ever expected, and had someone explained the realities to me, it would have made my life so much easier. For the purpose of this article, I am addressing issues related to being a 24/7 slave. These comments are from my viewpoint, which is that of a female slave who has served a male Master. By no means do I wish to exclude Domina’s or male slaves. For them, I cannot comment from personal experience. This is just my view from a real-time experience.
First, there are a few things you need to discover for and about yourself. Do you wish to be in this type relationship 24/7? Perhaps you only wish to be in it during the scenes. Maybe you want to role-play at only during certain times. There are many ways this activity can be  done, but you have to figure out what is right for you.
Second, you need to learn to be honest with yourself. Figure out what you will and will not do, and what is a “maybe.” Search inside yourself  for what you really want, and when you find it, be honest to anyone you talk to. Don’t agree to something long-term that you know you will not  
be able accomplish. Ask yourself some hard questions. The rest of this article will give you aspects to contemplate so you can base your decisions on reality, and not someone else’s dreams of how it should be.
Are you prepared to surrender 100% control of your life to someone else? 24/7 slaves do this. Role-playing would mean entering into this relationship only for the time agreed upon that the Master would have the total control. Once the scene is over, everything returns to normal.
Do you enjoy country music? Maybe you love Rock and Roll. Consider this. The Master who’s collar you will eventually wear, may only like classical or another type of music that you don’t enjoy. Are you prepared to give up those selections and only listen to His music? This type sacrifice can apply to many other things you currently enjoy. For myself, I love old love songs of any type, and my Master was into Hard  Rock. Because of His preferences, I rarely got to listen to my songs.  But, when I was a good girl, at times, He did permit me to listen to my choice of music, as long as I got I designated tasks and chores done.  Note, I said, “permitted to.” Something as simple as listening to the radio was a reward for me. It is not a given that you will be permitted to enjoy even this little pleasure whenever you wish.
These limitations can apply to many areas of your life such as TV, choices of food or friends, just about anywhere anything!
Is there a certain style of clothes you love? Certain colors and scents/perfumes you wouldn’t be caught without? If your Master doesn’t approve of them, you may be wearing a totally different style with colors you never would have dreamed of. He may lay your clothes out for you every morning. Are you prepared to abide happily by His choices? If He asked you to wear something very skimpy to someplace simple like the grocery store, could you do this without hesitation? I was lucky in the fact that my Master let me chose my own clothes most of the time. But at anytime, He decided that He wanted me to wear something else, I was tochange immediately. Trust me, He did exercise this right. I learned to always ask Him what He would like me to wear if we are going someplace special.
Are you prepared to change your hairstyle, length, or color to please your Master? All of these will belong to Him once you accept your collar as will everything else that once belonged to you. You will no longer own anything. From the time you take His collar, everything will be His. It will no longer be “your” car or “your” clothes, but “His,” on loan to you as He sees fit. If He should so choose, you will not be permitted to wear clothes at all. This will be HIS choice, not yours.  Remember, you will have given up all rights to make these choices for yourself.
You have a favorite chair, or a certain way you like to sit or walk?  Your Master will decide whether you sit on furniture or on the floor. He will have the say if you are to cross your legs, or sit with them spread wide-open. You will have to ask permission to even climb into bed, or sit on a chair. Most slaves are allowed a cushion on the floor that they do not need permission to sit upon, but very little else. You will even need permission to eat at the table with your Master.
It’s been a long hard day at work. You get home and want nothing more than to relax in a tub and go to bed early. Well, you won’t be able to.  Being tired, ill, or just in a bad mood does not excuse you from your required tasks. You are still required to do them: prepare His meal, and  
go to bed when HE tells you to. Retiring for bed usually occurs at a set time, even if you are not ready to go. There will not be an “I am  
too tired” or “I don’t feel well”: nothing of the kind. Unless your Master has excused you from your tasks and chores, you will remain responsible for making sure His needs and wants are filled: no matter what. It is your job to inform your Master of your physical health status. One of your main jobs will be to take care of and protect, His possessions. You being the most prized one He owns. As long as you let your Master know how you are feeling, He will make sure that your tasks will be appropriate to your capabilities.
Many come into this lifestyle looking to be used sexually, to service their Master at His whim. They never consider other aspects. The main part of being a slave is to be of service to your Master, and not to be serviced for yourself. However, being readily available to Him at ALL times is also an unspoken expectation. The old excuse “not tonight dear, I have a headache” doesn’t work in a D/s relationship. In order to  
provide Him pleasure, you must also express to Him the pleasure of the moment for you as well. NEVER make your Master feel this is a chore to you: something you would rather not do, but will only because you have to. If your Master tells you to do something, it will not be up to you to question Him. You will be required to respond with no questions asked. At a later time (if this is permitted in your relationship), you may ask Him for permission to speak on an equal level. If He gives permission, this will be your opportunity to ask your questions.  However, it is important to ask in a way so as not to question His authority, but at the same time to satisfy your curiosity.
Do you feel being a slave is to be coerced: forced into servitude? Do you think you couldn’t do this unless you were? Then think again.  Slaves enter into this relationship of their own free will. This is not the day of forced slavery; it is a matter of choice.
YOURS! You are the one who will decide to give over your power to your Master. You will be doing this, not because you are forced to obey, but  
because you need to. Yes, during the course of your relationship there will be times you will be forced to do something, but it will never be something that goes against who you are. Your Master may feel obeying this command will help you to grow into the best person you can be, or will help you break out of an inhibition you have.
How is your temper? Are you quick to fly off-of-the-handle when you are upset? Or are you laid back, accepting anything and everything, and then go off to sulk because your feelings were hurt? A Master does not wish to have a doormat for a slave nor does He desire to be told how things should be. Learning when and how to say things will become very important in your relationship. If you do not tell your Master whensomething is bothering you, then you have no right whatsoever to become upset. However wonderful and omnipotent He may seem, He is not a mind reader: unless you tell Him, He won’t know. The key, as I said a moment ago, is in how you tell Him.
Your self-discipline is very important in this relationship. Do you tend to put things off until the last possible moment? You won’t be able to do this when you are owned. There will be chores and tasks your Master will assign that He expects to be done in a timely fashion set by Him, not by you. Your Master’s wants and needs will be put before your own. Self-discipline is similar to self-control. Your ability to follow complete assignments made by your Master will be very important.  As a slave, you will need to be able to control your own actions well enough to be able to remain within the boundaries set for you by Him. If He says you can’t do something, simply, you can’t. Doing it anyway, and not telling Him doesn’t make it right. In the case of a Master/slave relationship, what you don’t know CAN hurt you, as well as the relationship you have worked so hard to build. Even a simple “white lie” can destroy the trust so necessary to really establish this typerelationship.
As to wants and needs of your own: do you know the difference between the two? If not, I strongly recommend you figure them out before entering into servitude. Sometimes the two are hard to distinguish, but it will become important that you do so. Your Master will ensure all  your “needs” are taken care of, but the “wants” will be His to allow or not, as He sees fit. Needs are the necessities of life that are required in order for us to remain mentally and physically healthy. They allow us to grow emotionally and spiritually. If you can survive without something, then it is a want. Wants are usually given as a reward for good behavior.
In order to be a slave, there will be many things you have to learn to accept within yourself and adapt to. Your primary purpose in life will be to see to your Masters pleasure (both mentally and physically) in any manner He should desire. In order to do this, you will have to learn your Master well. Find out what pleases and displeases Him. By this, I do not mean just sexually. You will learn that sex is but a small part of your relationship. Learn to anticipate His every need and desire without being pushy. His needs and desires will encompass intellectual stimulation, physical pleasure, emotional support, and many other things unique to Him. Remember – physical does not equal sexual.  Physical pleasure may include, but is not limited to, touch, favorite  foods, textures, clothing, and colors as examples. It will be your job to make sure His physical pleasures are met in every way. Think of the five senses, and make His environment pleasing to all of them. Never forget – the most pleasing thing in His environment should be you.
As His slave, it will be up to you to figure out what pleases your Master. He should not have to ask constantly for the basic things – you should have learned them. If His glass is empty, quietly and unobtrusively refill it. Remember, you are doing this for His pleasure not your own. Just because He does not notice and praise you doesn’t mean you are doing it wrong. Look at His smile. Is He comfortable? If He looks happy and content, then you have done well, and should bask in His content. Always remember that you do this for Him and not for your own satisfaction. Your happiness should come from serving Him and His being happy.
As I said in the beginning of this article, I am not trying to scare you away from the world of D/s. My goal is to make sure that, when you enter our lifestyle, you do so with your eyes wide open, fully knowing what to expect. The road will not be an easy one. You will have to re-learn much of what you once took for granted: things you just did without thinking, like simply sitting in a chair. These are habits we never even think about anymore. That is, until we find a Master.
Everything else you learned before reading this article is probably true. Being a slave is a wonderful life: one where you are taken care of. Most decisions are out of your hands and in those of your Master’s.  But, many choices will still be left up to you. Most Masters want a slave who is smart, has a sense of humor, and a will of their own. There is no pleasure in owning a doormat who just sits or is only walked upon. He will become bored very fast. Being yourself is the best advice I was given, and I have found this to be absolutely true for me.
You will find being a slave everything you dreamed of and so much more if you enter this life knowing more of what to expect. If you are meant to be in the lifestyle, you will find that, where you were once only walked through life, you will be gliding on air. Parts of you that never were complete will then become whole. In relinquishing control, I have found freedom: freedom to find and be the person I am inside.
It is my hope that, after reading this article, you will be able to make a more informed choice about entering this lifestyle. Never forget that, one of the most important requirements for existing in this lifestyle is honesty. Honesty with yourself first. However, you will find that this is not as easy as it sounds. Once you learn to do this, you will find yourself at peace and able to enter your servitude with clearer mind, knowing where you are and where you want to be. When you accept your Master’s collar, you give up all your rights. Your friends,your life – nothing will remain yours. Being a slave means giving up so much more than you would if you were only being submissive. You give up all rights in your life. Slave isn’t just a word; it’s a way of life, adefined action. Be well, my friend, and I hope you enjoy this lifestyle as much as I have come to love being in it.    

Saturday, 12 November 2016

Protocols for Slave bois to follow.

I like these rules for bois, they chime with much of how I prefer bois to be in my house:

Protocols of house rules
1. Unless otherwise directed, all slaves in the house are kept nude.
2. They are prohibited from ever touching money (or representatives of money, CC, ect) unless I hand it to them.
3. No touching keys unless handed them. (Money and keys represent freedom)
4. No use of furniture unless given permission.
5. No free access to food. He is fed.
6. Same for drinks other than water.
7. When engaging in a new conversation, he is expected to kneel and ask permission to speak
8. When called, he comes to me and kneels
9. He presents himself for inspection after bathing
10. When entering a room I am in without being called, he kneels and request permission to enter.
11. No eye contact unless directed by word or action
12. Permission required to use the toilet
13. He is secured for the night, either by being leashed to the bed to sleep in or beside it, or in a cage.
14. first bite of every meal is hand fed. Occasionally the entire meal is done this way.
15. Unless otherwise directed, he eats on the floor without use of hands.
16. When getting dressed, he will be directed or gain approval before covering himself.
17. No masturbation or orgasm unless commanded.
18. He may never close a door for privacy
19. If he does not have positive instructions and has some ‘leisure’ time, he must request permission to begin an activity.
20. When an assigned task is complete, he must report it as done.
21. If not currently under orders but not granted leisure time, he will kneel where directed until put to use.
22. Proper address is required
23. In public, he walks a step behind and to the left and is expected to step forward to open/hold doors.
24. Any mistake or failing is to be reported immediately.
25. When men are speaking, he will remain silent.
26. when placed in position, he will be still. 

Visiting bois, take note.  These were found on Tumblr and have been adapted.

Friday, 8 January 2016

Bespoke Bondage

Bondage should be bespoke as well as being beautiful.  I have been spending some time making a set of small stocks out of wood over the past few days.  I finished them yesterday, expecting an opportunity to use them this weekend which failed to materialise due to circumstances.  

The stocks came about because I saw how a boi had difficulty wearing a pair of metal stocks, so I decided that I'd make a set which would be inherently more comfortable to wear; the ankle and wrist holes being made to fit the body and to prevent the edges of the device digging in.  Now some might want the subject to be experiencing pain, but my focus is on prolonging the bondage rather than inflicting pain.

The first attempt had to be improved upon by enlarging the wrist apertures so I fitted a strip of oak to the bottom half.  This gave just enough of a gap to allow the wrists to be either flat or vertical.  The holes are oval rather than round, and cutting them into the wood was not an easy thing due to the complex nature of the angles and the need for soft corners for comfort.  

I have been thinking of making items like this to order for a long time now, and I will be setting up another blog to complement this one, called "DarkRoomFurniture".  It is my intention to make small items like fiddles and other bondage items.

On a non-related issue, I had the opportunity to have some pleasure with this boi recently.  he lives fairly local to me, and after some discussion popped over.

It was a bit of a late night thing, and there is a possibility of something regular developing.  I have to say I think that both of us had a good time, so we'll see what the New Year brings.

Happy New Year to all the followers of the blog!

Saturday, 26 December 2015

Merry Xmas, One and All

Merry Christmas to you all.

Yesterday was a special day for my two slaves 923 and 092.

Both bois have been locked up for a while and so both were allowed to cum as a present and both made clips, which I present below:

First up is my owned slave 923 who has been doing very well.  he first came into my ownership in July 2015, and after a break has reaffirmed his desire to be mine.
slave 092 has been serving me for a while, and has only recently expressed a desire for a collar.
Both bois have been kept locked on and off over the last year, although they have been permitted to cum at regular intervals for my pleasure.

In addition to these bois, I am also introducing a new boi, 308, who has asked me to train him.  So things are moving along. 

 Currently serving and trained by me are the following slaves as fifteen ends and 2016 opens:

With my very best wishes to you for the New Year.

Saturday, 5 September 2015

179 and 092

After a bit of a break, I had 179 come visit.

Knowing he enjoyed the electro last time, I thought we'd play with the cage and some electricity.

 Needless to say, he enjoyed the experience, and eventually I allowed him to cum to a sticky end.

As always, I'm looking to spend more time with this boi.

I have had 092 locked up for a while.  I had him cum for me before locking up, and then he posted me the key, much like I've done before.  he is now using a more comfortable silicone device, and under instructions to report in daily.  The intention was that he'd visit over the bank holiday weekend, but this did not happen because I am currently building a shed over my boat so I can make some repairs.

So he had to wait a few more days for the key to arrive after I'd posted it to him, Royal Mail being what it is now.  So, after 11 days, he was able to cum.

Now locked again.

Thursday, 2 July 2015


For me, the act of keeping a boi in chastity is very satisfying. I enjoy both the element of control that it affords me as well as the opportunity it gives the boi to surrender. Using a device amounts to a temporary fix, because when a boi is in service to his master he should
not need the prop that a device represents. Submission is a state of mind, and as such becomes a lifestyle choice, requiring both master and slave to change their habits. Devices are good as erotic tools, as well as visible symbols of ownership and submission, and in that sense they are useful.   Above and below are pictures of 092's cock straining against the bars of his device after two full days' imprisonment; below is a clip of my new boi 923 cumming after having edged for 20 minutes, having been locked up for four days. This is a boi whose habit has been to cum several times daily in the past.

So it is with some interest that I observe how well 923 - who's main interest is chastity and who contacted me to be his keyholder initially - is coping.  he is enjoying the process, and as you can see from the film clip below, he's enjoying the experience of being released, too.

Since becoming my boi he has shaved, been locked, has started a blog, has updated his fetlife profile to reflect his status, and he has been in daily contact.  I have sent him a sample contract, and so far he is, as I have said before, pleasing me greatly.

Wednesday, 1 July 2015

923 and 092 make their debut

For some time now, I have been speaking to 092, and I have mentioned him before on this blog.  Yesterday I took the keys to his device and he is now firmly under lock and key.   he is a submissive whom I have been speaking to for over 5 years, and it is my hope that he will feature on this blog more often.

My new slave under training is 923, of whom the picture opposite is.
he is a boi who is showing great promise, and I have already had him under lock and key since for a while.  Today I allowed him to edge and cum before locking him up again.  As can be seen, he is shaved and as proved to be most obedient.

I have great hopes for him.

Sunday, 29 March 2015

New Cage

testing the neck hole on the maiden voyage
I took delivery of the new cage from Alan (bigajs on recon) and so far have found it useful.  Together with the boi 153 (featured in the last post) I made a base for it and covered it in black leatherette.
 Since then, 153 was the first boi to use it, and we tested the neck hole in the door on that first night.

I have found it to be a useful place to store a boi while doing other things, like taking a shower and so on.

c waiting
I have used the bars as handy places to attach ropes for bondage to, and the base is removeable and can go on top, to provide a nice place to work on.

I am busy training a new boy who is as yet un-numbered, so I'll call him "c" because he's from near  Chester.
he came to serve a few days ago, and in many ways, is in a similar position to 153.

One of the features he enjoyed was being in the cage and sucking my cock.  This was one of a few clips I made, and I am sure you will enjoy it.
c is for caged cocksucker
This was really his first real time service, and so although he'd had a few one-offs with more dominant men than himself which had really only involved exploratory oral work, his time with me was different.  I think he's found what he's looking for, but whether thats with me or not is difficult to say.
I do know that he enjoyed the time he spent with me.

I am expecting to see c again, but, as in the case of 153. we will simply have to see.  :D No, the pun was NOT intentional!
c wearing the square egg buttplug

Monday, 23 March 2015

A Brave Boi

This weekend 153 came to visit.  There was a bit of a mixup with the trains because there was a fatality on the track, which meant that he had to be rerouted - not a big problem as it turned out, because I'd parked halfway between the two Warrington stations.  I took the key to his cb as we walked to the car, which I could tell he liked.

I drove him back to mine, and once inside, he was told to strip.  I like to have a naked boi around the house, especially as it is now Spring and warming.  Yesterday was also nice and sunny, too.  I showed him around, and I released his cock from the device.  It was hard, which was to be expected given his week locked up.  
The boi-rack

I had no intention of allowing him to cum just yet, which perhaps, on reflection, I should have done.

I had expected to see 179 the night before, and as part of the activities planned with him, I'd intended making a base for the new cage.  For various reasons that arrangement fell through and so I used 153 for making the base.  It was also intended to take his mind off his hard cock, and to acclimatise himself to being a houseboi, naked and useful.  His degree had been in practical things, so this activity he enjoyed.  The base needed trimming, and so after a little work, the foam and leatherette had been tacked on and we went upstairs to fit.  This was an opportune time to use the cage, so various positions were tried out in it, together with some rope.  I used the collar function in the doors, but I have to say that I did not find it particularly useful.  Nice touch, but not really practical for me.  I suppose as a stress position for behavioural correction, yes.

On the bed
We moved on to the boi-rack I'd built which also doubles as an innocent towel drying rack over the radiator, and then played with pegs and titclamps for a while.  I was edging him all the time, and then applied a little light electro.  I had discovered that this boi had been circumcised, which I very much like, so the electric stimulation pad
fitted nicely under his glans.

he was led to the bedroom, and during the course of what followed it became evident that not only was he a virgin slave, but he had also never been with a man before at all.  This is why I have entitled this blog "A Brave Boi".  It seems that he is not sure if he is gay or not.  I asked him, while he was sucking my cock, if he was enjoying it.  Yes, he liked it, balked a little at rimming, but did well.  One of the reasons I moved to the bedroom was to be more tactile, and because I realised that he enjoyed affection as well as bondage and bdsm play.

The cumshot
In order to maximise the edging, I locked him up again, and we went for a pizza.  When we returned, we continued, and I allowed him to cum.  He had been plugged from the beginning, which he enjoyed.  Once he'd cum, the magic was over.  The fantasy spell had been broken, and so it was time to stop.

I applaud him for having the guts to jump in at the deep end, and I admire his bravery in travelling the distance and then staying the course.  The scene had ended,  and doubts were apparent much earlier on, so it was best to stop and call it a night.  The following morning I dropped him off at the station.

Will I see him again?  Perhaps.  Perhaps not.  Either way, it was a good experience, and I enjoyed having him under control.  I think that he is caught at that crossroads, where he is gay and wants to be gay, but at this stage, cannot be, won't allow himself to be.  I think that he is a submissive, without a doubt, and that if he chooses to find another master, that's good.  I think he's a brave boi for having put himself on the line and for seeking me out and trying stuff.  

I am going to close his blog for now, until he knows what he wants to do.

Saturday, 14 March 2015

Locked boi 153

For some time now, I have been having some fun with a boi named 153.  he has an interest in chastity, and has been using his device for our mutual pleasure.  I have just posted a link to his blog to the right of this post.

Today is the second coming (so to speak) and here is a picture of him, freshly groomed after unlocking this morning.

Further to the privacy notice: Google, it seems, has changed its mind so I won't close off this blog in the near future, although I am tempted to do so sooner or later.

Here is the orgasm.
And safely locked up afterwards.